Be Do Have, Revisited

BE – DO – HAVE is now commonly considered to be the proper interpretation of the way that the Law of Attraction works.

I was listening to Loral Langemeier of the movie The Secret recently and she said something that I thought was very insiteful. She believes that the correct order of things is actually DO – BE – HAVE. Upon reflection, I tend to agree.

When I thought about it, for example, when a person wants to become something …like a hairdresser, they DO what a hairdresser does (not very well at first). Then they will be able to BE what they desire to be. And they will HAVE what hairdressers have such as clients.

A person who is about to take their first lesson in flying a plane does not say “I am a pilot”. A statement like that only comes after practicing the art of taking off, flying and landing. Only after time and experience does the being part of the equation take hold. Only after the proper training and demonstrating proficiency can anyone HAVE a pilot’s license decreeing that they are in fact, a pilot.

Of course, not everything that people want to accomplish has a formal title that is bestowed upon you once you have completed a set of tasks. There are certain things that you actually bestow the title upon yourself. In many ways, this takes more guts than having someone else pronounce you “qualified”. It can take courage to stand up and declare yourself worthy fo being listened to on a given subject. But it gets easier and easier in the doing of the thing that makes it so.

Attitude Is Everything

Attitude is everything in getting to the results you desire.

If you go in with a winning attitude more times than not you will get what you are after …or even better. I can’t count the number of times that having an attitude of helpfulness or gratefulness or simply kindness have created circumstances where I received a much greater benefit than I originally intended.

Being pleasantly surprised is often a wonderful byproduct of having the right mindset.

This mindset consists of being open, having flexible thinking, and knowing that if you are kind and helpful good things will come to you.

You must be willing to give. It is that willingness that is the attitude you are looking for in yourself.

The simplest thing to give is a compliment. It must be genuine.

In order to be able to give out a true thoughtful compliment that the recipient will appreciate, simply take your focus off of yourself and shine the spotlight onto the other person. If you pay attention, you will surely notice something that will make them feel good when you point it out.

Most of the time, people do not receive enough praise or acknowledgement. Everyone likes it (whether they admit it or not).

It does make the world a better place. It’s like a chain reaction. Brighten one persons day and they will most likely pass it on. Attitude is everything to everyone you meet.

It doesn’t cost anything to be nice. It can really cost more than you realize if you choose not to be. When you are nice, others will be likelier to be nice to you in return …even those that have a reputation for being unkind. They are the ones who need TLC more than most because they are usually inviting harshness to themselves.

In all that you do, just remember that attitude is everything and you can’t go wrong!

How To Be Successful In Network Marketing

How to be successful in network marketing is a very common question. The first thing to gain control over is the ability  to maintain the correct attitude (otherwise known as posture).

What is proper posture and how do you achieve it? It is all about putting on a powerful dynamic persona. It definitely isn’t fake. It’s different and unique for each and every individual. It’s something you already have within yourself and only you can bring out. You might have to dig deep to find it, though.

It’s an inside job.

I once heard a story that I think illustrates this concept pretty well. As I recall, it went something like this:

Two ladies went out shopping for the afternoon. There probably was a fantastic sale going on because the store was extremely crowded. As Norma and her friend (I forgot the other  friend’s name) shopped, they were having a great time together. It had been such a long time since they had gotten to have a day to call their own.

As the day went on, the friend was perplexed by what the other shoppers were doing. She couldn’t get over it. She asked Norma what she believed was going on. Why was everyone all around them acting so…normal? …As if they had no idea.

Then, Norma Jean asked her friend to watch as she put on the persona of…you guessed it, the one and only, Marilyn Monroe.

Suddenly, throngs of people were shocked to notice just who was among them that day. Within seconds, she was mobbed with autograph seekers and other fans.

Everyone has their own special strength inside of them they can bring out at will, with practice. The kind of presence that makes others take notice…commands their attention.

Seek it out. Find yours, and you too will know how to be successful in network marketing.

Using Empowering Language

What is the difference between using empowering language and the way that most people speak? It’s enormous! It is the difference between winning and losing. Getting to your goal or not.

One of the huge differentiating factors comes from the questions we ask. Most important is what we ask ourselves and secondly, what we ask of others.

Asking good questions is the key to success. Good or even great answers can come only from good questions. For instance, listen to the difference between the following: Why am I so broke? vs How can I make more money? Do you hear the difference in the attitude?

Question one is asked with a sad-sack attitude. Furthermore, it leads to all kinds of answers, none of which are helpful at all. Who even really wants to hear all of the deflating answers to that line of questioning?

Question two is full of hope. It leads to many answers full of possibilities that will make a great difference in the life of the asker, if implemented.

When beginning to ask yourself better questions, it can seem to be overwhelming. If you have had the habit of asking yourself unhelpful questions up until now, a really good question to begin to ask yourself is: What is the next step for me to take to move me closer to my goal?

The truth of the matter is that you don’t have to know everything in order to make progress. You only need to know what the next step is and then take it. Each new step sheds new light on what the next step should be.

Very important to understand: Some of your steps will seem to be missteps. The reality is that each step creates a new vantage point from which to assess the situation. You will be able to see new possibilities from each new spot where you stand after taking yet another step (even baby steps). You might just have to take a small detour off of your current path in order to see a much more expedient way to get where you want to go. Something you never would have seen from where you were before. These are called happy accidents. Most (probably all) profound discoveries came from experimentation.

An overview is good, but you can’t possibly see every alternative before you turn each new corner. Continuing to ask what is my next step and then taking it will get you where you want to go (or possibly somewhere better) so much faster than trying to plan every moment of trip in advance.

Speaking of trying, try is an extremely dis-empowering word. Trying is not doing. Doing is the only way to get anywhere. The word try implies a built in excuse for not achieving.

When you begin using empowering language, you must banish certain words from your vocabulary. A good list to start with is try, should and could.

Should and could are also excuse words. Either you will or you won’t. Be decisive.

Pay attention to the way that successful people speak. They are not wishy washy. They speak with authority. You can too! It just takes practice.

The more you keep asking, answering and taking action, the more you build up your decisiveness muscles. The first step toward getting where you want to go is using empowering language. It will help get you there!

Be Do Have

Be Do Have.  What does it mean?

It is the correct order of things. It is the way things truly are.

Most people have it backwards. Most people want to have…things.

This is the lottery mentality. The reason why most lottery winners end up more broke after they win big than before their “good fortune” is because of this way of thinking.

Millionaires and billionaires are rich first. They Be it in their minds. This part is critical. It is the catalyst for everything else.

The second part of the formula is to Do. In order to do what rich people do (if that is your goal) you must first Be rich in your head. If you believe you are poor then you will do what poor people do, just as believing you are rich will lead you to do what rich people do.

The third and final step in the Be Do Have process is to Have. This is the natural by-product of the prior two steps.

The way that everything comes to fruition is always the same. Believing is first…and then second you will see. If you wait to see something before you can believe, I’m sorry to say that you will never see the results that you desire.

The building isn’t built and then conceived of. That makes no sense at all. Somehow people think that they will magically begin acting the way they think they ought to once they have the things they want to have. It has never worked that way and it never will.

In order to Have, one must first Do. In order to Do, one must first Be.

Be Do Have: this is the eternal formula to use to get to where you want to be.

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